Friday, August 10, 2007

Barstool philosophers (did I spell that right?)

It's 10:31 a.m. and I am really just waking up now.
I know. Slacker.
I went out last night with some people from my last job. They are a fun bunch of guys to hang with and I just feel like one of the boys when I am with them.
Of course, I was the only one of the boys wearing a ruffled skirt and 4-inch heels. But they don't seem to mind.
Now, none of us are the philosophical type, but we are all pretty intelligent people.
We also all work shitty hours and have had various problems trying to have a real life outside of that.
So we got to talking about relationships. Nothing specific to any one person there, just some general questions we all have asked ourselves at one time or another.

Is it possible to work nights and weekends and holidays and still have a good relationship?
And what does that mean?
What does it mean to each of us to be in love?
What do we expect from a partner and what should a partner expect from us?

I don't think any of us had any answers. Of course, this conversation also started after last call, so that may have been a factor.

5 comments:

ReesePie said...

It is a tough bag, I agree. I work Noon to 8pm and usually only have Sunday and Wednesday off. My Almost-Husband works Monday to Friday 8am to 3pm AND Thursday, Saturday and Sunday night 4:30pm to whenever the bar closes. Makes it tough to see each other in anything but pajamas.

Ninja Of The Mundane said...

I'm the wrong person to ask, because I'm a lifetime loser in regard to all of the above questions. But I still have hope. What alternative is there?

My caveat would be: Don't fall in love until you figure this stuff out. Don't chain a partner to problems you can't fully control.

Jill said...

I have been lucky to find someone who can deal with my hours. Now I guess my main question is how does each of us define love.
What does it mean to you, as an individual?

Mandy said...

I've not encountered someone who's had a problem with my hours. Of course it helps that I don't work weekends.

Were any of these men sports guys? I find them to be particularly unlucky in love. They're always single. Probably mostly because they're weird.

Jill said...

Yeah, all the guys I was out with that night were sports guys. One of them is actually married with kids. The others are single, for various reasons I'm sure.